Friday 3 August 2012

Impress me dammit!

Dating is a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by two people with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple.
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I thought it best to start this converstaion with the definition of Dating. I have become highly irritable to silliness, especially from men. I do not have time or energy to waste. I'd rather chill and read a book than waste my time dilly-dallying with another mother's child.
These days, people hardly feel the need to go on dates preferring to hook up at each other's places to get to know each other. 90% of the guys who show an interest in me ask me if they may visit me. It pisses me off!!!
Actually, it started pissing me off recently.
I was sitting on my uncomfortable chair as I had a 'suitor' in my house. He sat there, on my couch, getting warmed by my fireplace(my wood, my charcoal) while drinking my wine and watching my TV. He even tried to change channels, I almost stabbed him then. Anyway, I thought...ummm...where is the impressing me part? Does it come now? The guy then went on to tell me how much he loves me etc...duuuuude, you don't even know me!!! And of course you love me, that's not headline news to me. Lotsa people do, pick a number and stand in line.
Its really disgusting how both men and women are cutting corners on 'getting to know each other' lately. Such cosiness of couch sharing should be reserved for later on. That's a very intimate thing to do me thinks.
I realise that my rigidity is annoying and sometimes may come across as self-righteous...I make no apology for this though. Was it Iyanla or Rick Warren who spoke in length about using your energy rather on God than silliness? Actually my favourite guy in the bible, Paul, urges us to use our energy on God. If you know its nothing serious, why are you using your time, energy on him? SOme people even sleep with these non-seriouis people. Share your whole self, open your legs-widdde, for a non-serious person? You are strong hun.
It aint my fault people feel comfortable in confined spaces with a guy they haven't been in the same company with for over 5 hours. And nogal in South Africa. Tjooo.
I want to date. Proper. Like, make reservations and plan IN TIME. Go have dinner, watch whales even. I want to be impressed. Before you make a noise, yes, of course I'll impress too...(figuring out how, my awesome charm and smile perhaps?). There is a guy at the moment who has pin-pointed me as his to-be girl(GIRL?Nne??mxm )
This guy whatsapps me overtime and calls me when there's Vodacom specials only. Like really? Why must i waste my energy and incredible brain capabilities on him? I told him he gives me no reason for me to wish to speak with him. He is a suurstof dief!
Are 28 year old single women seen as desperate enough to just be happy to have a man? Not me. Shooo, you must not know abwt me shem.
Our standards as women differ, a lot. I find it hard to believe there are women who are not in the sex biz that have sex with people and don't get attached. Yes, shurrrup,I know you all go 'me, me its not such a biggie), mxm, cos you were made with what different stuff to what made the rest of us women? When women have sex with a man, there is an unsaid hope that it won't end there. Ngoho (truth).
We are emotional creatures like that. That's what makes us so special. I seriously don't get the women who wanna act all macho and say 'if men can do it why can't I). I'm not gonna get into this subject actually.
I get side-tracked so easily. Must be the multiple personalities all fighting to be heard at the same time. Its tiring.
Anyway, back to the impressing.
I'm old fashioned. I want a man to woo me, make me interested, make me laugh. Don't rock up in my life like you're the Messiah and I must now bow and praise and be grateful you picked me. I have had one that got away and I'm the one that does the texting 1st while he plays the innocent Sir that has no idea what's happening. Sometimes I lose it and crap him out and then he relaxes a little, buys me a nice pair of shoes then we go back to the flirty dance. Its like fencing...we're always circling...correction, I am always circling him...sometimes I ignore...but I'm always there. He knows. I like to tell myself when I don't text he misses me. However, I haven't yet come up with a reason why he doesn't text first since he misses me so much. Its ok. I think its good for me.
It actually gives me great pleasure to share this. I think I'm gonna say more about this acquintance in future convos. I should even come up with a name for him. (Lord help me not text him and ask him what name I should use for him in my blog.)
PS. Lord, thanx for preventing me from sending him my blog link...I know...it sounds horrific, I like it :)
But you get what I mean about men needing to step it upwith the impressing neh? Flowers black people!!!

8 comments:

  1. My head hurts ! But I like it ;-) E.

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    1. Sorry for scrambling your head. Now you have an idea how bad it is in here.Imagine having a zillion thoughts abt a zillion thoughts all day errdzaay!shoo. U r anonymous,please sign your name next time so I can know who u r.
      Thanx for reading :)

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  2. I enjoy reading ur blogs. Gets me thinkin abt the small things i often overlook.. Keep it up.. Dont stop!

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  3. I love the fiestyness that comes with this honest blog. Chino! Am I glad I'm not the only 28year old lady feeling this way. It seems to be the norm with men thsese days. Thank you for putting it out there....I share the very same sentiment.
    Maude

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    1. Chino, I can relate, I too am a 28 year old women not willing to settle for the laziness men pass of as wooing these days. Damn Skippy. Impress me! I want nothing less

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  4. Heeeheeheeeheee!!!
    AND I'mma try not jump from subject to subhect in future ones so I dnt scramble brains.u knw we need those to scan these nasty men out ;)
    Keep reading!!mwaaahhhh!!

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  5. Will do; I've already bookmarked your site.
    www.maudestar.tumblr.com

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  6. This is really an eye opener for me. no more texting first.

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